When facing daily life challenges, the choice between speaking with a psychic medium and a therapist comes down to the type of support and insight one is seeking. A conversation with a psychic medium can offer a unique set of benefits that differ from traditional therapy, particularly for individuals looking for spiritual guidance, reassurance, or perspective beyond the tangible.
Signs from Spirit are all around us as our loved ones send us messages to let us know they have made it to the other side. I had a dear friend who was diagnosed with lung cancer. She was a client who turned into a dear friend. From the day I met Jennifer, she became personal to me. Her spirit, her beauty always transcended beyond words but most important I would come to know her inner strength, and what she had put into others that will be forever etched in my heart.
The month of February has always been a hard month for me because I have experienced a lot of loss. Jennifer fought the hard fight through the end. I had gotten the call from her mother who informed me that Jen was near her end and that she had reached hospice care. Her family made arrangements for Jen to leave the hospital and to be taken home where she could pass away comfortably.
Every day her sweet mother kept me informed on Jen and I always kept her and her family in my prayers. On February 19th I had such a hectic schedule at my office seeing clients. My last client came at 5 o’clock. As I was conducting my session with my client I saw a man stepping forward, a grandfather type. I started to describe this male spirit in detail. My client was so happy she jumped up with excitement and said, “That’s my grandfather! Oh I was hoping he would come through!” I proceeded with relaying the message, then the next spirit came through. This time I saw a woman in a jogging outfit with bright pink jogging shoes and she is running with sheer happiness and such strength. 
Pink Gym Shoes a Sign from Spirit
I am only seeing the back of this woman as I described what she was doing to my client. I knew this woman was in her late thirties or early forties. She was letting me know she passed from cancer and she was free. She was happy and she ran fast into the light to let her know she was okay. My client replied, “There is no one that fits that description that I know.” I kept asking, “Is it a friend? Someone perhaps your mother or your family knew?” She answered, “No. I’m sorry I don’t know this person.” I apologized but kept seeing the back of this person. I continued on with her reading which was a beautiful one for her. I said my goodbyes, picked up my belongings and headed to my car.
I had played back my voicemails and a dear friend had left a message stating that Jennifer had passed. I started to cry, and all of a sudden Jen appeared to me and said, “It took you long enough! It was me! I tried to show you I made it to the other side. I remember when you said, when you see the light run to it, and I did. I am whole again and I can run again.” Jennifer was a marathon runner and when she got sick she no longer could run. The reading I was giving for my client turned out to be a gift for me; divine spirit is priceless. What Jennifer gave me was truly the peace and validation and the gift I will always be grateful for.
When I went to her wake I was greeted by her two beautiful daughters who truly take after their mother. I told them about their mother coming through and told them what she said about the pink gym shoes. They smiled and were overjoyed. They told me they had their mom dressed in a jogging suit and she was wearing pink gym shoes in the casket. Wow!
Jen is not here in a physical sense but her spirit lives on and is always here looking after all of us. We must always remember when our loved ones pass they do show us signs. It can be in dreams, we can hear a favorite song, a smell, find feathers or find coins. These signs come when we need or miss them the most so tune into the signs from Spirit that are all around you; they are there. I am so grateful for the gift that has been bestowed on me and will be eternally grateful to be the messenger each and every day. I learn every day through my clients and the divine spirit. I take nothing for granted and I am grateful for everything.
Much love
Have you filled your life with givers or takers? Throughout my life I’ve always believed in treating people with kindness and support in their time of need, and all around lending a helping hand unconditionally. But as time goes by, I’ve often noticed and wondered why is it so hard for people to do the same in return? To be there for you? Support you? Wish you well unconditionally?
Why is it so hard for some people to go out of their way for others especially when people have gone out of their way time and time again for them? My husband always says, “Shake the dead leaves off the tree.” He couldn’t be more right. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize it’s more than people who are there for you vs. people who are not.
Givers or Takers? Creating Balance in Relationships
Life is about balance and everything we do should incorporate balance. That goes for all relationships, whether it’s a spouse, children, brother, sister, friend, mother, father or boss. 
It’s important to evaluate whether our relationships are with givers or takers. Whatever we put into a relationship we need to be taking away just as much. If we don’t, the relationship will falter. It may take two months, or twenty years. But if the relationship does not incorporate true balance, the relationship in time will fail causing the person who is always giving unconditionally to come up emotionally bankrupt.
So keep in mind when someone who has always been there for you, to show them the same gesture in return.
So, are you a giver or a taker? When you question the balance of the relationship you need to ask yourself, “Is this the relationship you want to continue? To put forth the effort?” Sometimes the best thing you can do is to disconnect from the people who do not put forth the effort in return. When you shrug off the takers is when good actually comes through to you unconditionally. The real balance then starts to emerge.
I dedicate this article to my husband, a man who for me, has taught me so much in the way of true balance. He has offered respect for my happiness and has taught me mutual kindness, support and always well wishes. I continue to show him the same mutual respect and kindness. This is truly what it’s all about.
Relationship Balance: Why We Need Equals in Our Lives
Relationship balance is something that too often we choose to ignore in our lives. There is an old saying my mother used to say, “Show me who your friends are and I’ll tell you what kind of person you are.”
Well when she would tell me that, I didn’t quite understand what and how that meant, until I got older. I meet people that say, “I feel stuck and I don’t know why.” I say to them, “Look around. I bet it’s the people you surround yourself with that bring you down. The negative energy they bring to you.”
We need equals in our lives and need to achieve relationship balance because surrounding ourselves with people that we can learn from, or people that motivate us, or people that just bring out the best in ourselves is really key to having a happy and successful life. There are people that come in our lives for a reason, but the question is, “What do we learn from them?”
Achieving Relationship Balance
When is it not okay to continue on with the relationship? How a person makes us feel or what they can make us do can be a huge disservice to ourselves. The fact is you should be choosey in who you allow in your space and around your daily life. People who are not happy will never make you happy.
When choosing your life partner, your partner should be your equal or above you. If you have to go ten steps backwards, stay single until you find the person that’s worthy of you. Do not settle! When you separate yourself from negative relationships is when you grow; then you start to thrive. The more successful or higher you move throughout your life, the more protective you have to be with your space.
I always say, “If you have one good friend with the right qualities, then you are truly blessed.” Having twenty friends, but who are shallow, are not your friends. Understanding your growth level is key to your success in life but most of all your happiness. Looking back, I now have a deeper understanding of what my mother would say.
Equals in our lives really are key to a much more productive and happy life.
I want to talk about timing and what effect it has on our lives. Did you ever meet someone and hit it off and start to talk about your younger days and where you’ve hung out? Then you discovered that person
went to the same places and hung out with the same people as you but the two of you have never met. It wasn’t meant for you to meet until now. That’s timing.
I’ve met people who went to the same high school together and much later in life their paths have crossed and they started dating and ended up marrying each other. But why didn’t they marry when they were much younger? Again it’s the timing.
Timing in Life Creates Life Lessons
The purpose to come together is when you both are ready. If you came together when you were younger it would not have worked out. There are reasons why people come into our lives when they do. For every good and even bad person we come to meet, they are there for a reason. Sometimes we are blessed with lasting relationships, other times we meet a nice person we can call a friend and then they slip out of our lives. That’s because their mission was done. The same goes for someone who has been an enemy and there is purpose for them as well such as meeting someone nice through that person.
Everything is a learning lesson and the timing is crucial. There is a purpose for whomever comes into our lives, and it’s when you are ready for good, or bad to enjoy, to learn and to teach. I knew someone through a good friend but we were very distant through the years, just acquaintances. One day she encountered tragedy and that tragedy brought us together. She didn’t understand why this happened and couldn’t cope. Through her ordeal she started to grow in her thinking and how she looked at different instances. She was ready to connect to me on a level that earlier she would never understand.
People are in our lives for many reasons so the next time someone who may be in our life now, that makes no sense, remember it’s all on what you learn and the timing of it all and what it can bring later. What we are not ready for earlier, experience has made us ready for later. Every relationship we encounter is never a waste. We may not know the answers at that time but life has a way to invite the timing when it is needed.
Is my partner cheating? It’s a question I’m often asked when a client comes to see me. I will counter it with “What is worse–your partner cheating on you or what you allow others to do to you?”People tend to focus on the act of cheating, but lose sight of the whole picture. When you allow not just your partner, but all those who come into your life or the people already in your life, to treat you with disrespect, this is harmful to your spirit.
By allowing people to take advantage or commit acts of hurtfulness, you are doing a larger disservice to yourself. You can have a spouse that never cheated with someone else, but cheats on one’s spirit in other ways. They cheat through everyday acts of disloyalty.
- Are they there for you?
- Does your partner support you in what you want to do?
- When you are ill, does your partner nurture you?
- When raising your children, does your partner have a hand in that and show an interest?
It goes the same for your other relationships as well–your Mother, Father, Sister, Brother, Friend– to be in sync with your spirit and grow together. So when you want to know about your partner cheating, think deeper. It’s not a question of a single act, but many acts. It’s not 50/50; it’s always 100/100 percent. It’s important to be in total alignment with not just one’s self, but with each other.
So the question you should be asking yourself is, “Am I allowing people to cheat on my Spirit?”