learning to take the time to recharge my batteries. I have always worked hard, and I continue to do so as I love helping people and giving them the messages they need to hear.  As much as I love to work, I am finding my balance, in turn that gives me my strength. Finding your strength will in turn give you your purpose to what you should and need to be doing. When you are mentally and emotionally exhausted it does become foggy, or interrupted to what we should be doing.
Finding your happy place within you, is what I am talking about.

So how do we find that???

Embracing the courage to change comes to mind especially at this time of year.  I hope everyone enjoyed their summer, and yes, it’s hard to believe we are already into the fall season. From a child I always loved the change in seasons.  It has always brought new opportunities for us to embrace another change.  Yet, when there is change how do we find our courage and strength to embrace life’s every day challenges?

The one thing I learned long ago is change does not have to be hard.  It’s all in how we embrace the courage to change for the challenges the universe puts in our direction. The hard part becomes when the change is difficult and we have no practice in that area in how to handle these circumstances, we panic and go into anxiety mode.

Embrace the Courage to Change

What we need to realize about change, good or bad, is the secret in how to handle it. We need to pay attention and not micro-manage every aspect of the change. There is something to be said for going with the flow, to embrace an openness instead of an uneasiness, which sets the pace for what comes next.

When we try not to control but to listen to our divine messages is when we are being led to the next chapter. Again, the secret is to let it happen.  When you do this you will see how much the courage the change actually comes through and your hidden strength starts to take over.

Remember change is necessary for one’s soul growth; when you resist you are not progressing!

Wishing you a wonderful harvest season!

Much love and abundance.
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, , , Relationship Balance: Why We Need Equals in Our Lives

Relationship balance is something that too often we choose to ignore in our lives. There is an old saying my mother used to say, “Show me who your friends are and I’ll tell you what kind of person you are.”img_2820-bw

Well when she would tell me that, I didn’t quite understand what and how that meant, until I got older. I meet people that say, “I feel stuck and I don’t know why.” I say to them, “Look around. I bet it’s the people you surround yourself with that bring you down. The negative energy they bring to you.”

We need equals in our lives and need to achieve relationship balance because surrounding ourselves with people that we can learn from, or people that motivate us, or people that just bring out the best in ourselves is really key to having a happy and successful life. There are people that come in our lives for a reason, but the question is, “What do we learn from them?”

Achieving Relationship Balance 

When is it not okay to continue on with the relationship? How a person makes us feel or what they can make us do can be a huge disservice to ourselves. The fact is you should be choosey in who you allow in your space and around your daily life. People who are not happy will never make you happy.

When choosing your life partner, your partner should be your equal or above you. If you have to go ten steps backwards, stay single until you find the person that’s worthy of you.  Do not settle! When you separate yourself from negative relationships is when you grow; then you start to thrive. The more successful or higher you move throughout your life, the more protective you have to be with your space.

I always say, “If you have one good friend with the right qualities, then you are truly blessed.” Having twenty friends, but who are shallow, are not your friends. Understanding your growth level is key to your success in life but most of all your happiness. Looking back, I now have a deeper understanding of what my mother would say.

Equals in our lives really are key to a much more productive and happy life.
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Are you experiencing a spiritual disconnect? Have you forgotten to laugh? To feel? To do things that you connect with? I meet so many people that suffer from depression but why are they depressed? Going to the doctor and taking a pill is a quick fix but will that really resolve what’s ailing you? I like to try to find out why and there is always a why.

Paying attention to your spirit is usually what most people don’t do for themselves. We are always worried to please others but once we concentrate on others and forget ourselves is when we are starving our spirit. When you stop doing what you love, you are coming up “emotionally bankrupt” resulting in a spiritual disconnect. Forgetting what pleasured you in the past because of all the “stuff” of everyday life or trying to please your spouse, your kids or boss creates a sense of anxiety and loss of self.  Losing yourself in the end is when the depression starts to set in.

If you are a nature person or a person who needs to be near water or you like to paint, to garden, or like the quiet of a small town and need time to yourself, loves music or loves to be with your animals, then you must start to get in touch with your spirit. When you do this, then you revive your spirit and that’s when your body starts to heal itself. To be happy starts with yourself first. When you choose to pay attention that’s when things start to become clearer. Doing things for people has its place but when you deprive yourself you disconnect with your spirit and that’s when your soul suffers. The key is to not let yourself become something you’re not.

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Is my partner cheating?  It’s a question I’m often asked when a client comes to see me.  I will counter it with “What is worse–your partner cheating on you or what you allow others to do to you?”People tend to focus on the act of cheating, but lose sight of the whole picture. When you allow not just your partner, but all those who come into your life or the people already in your life, to treat you with disrespect, this is harmful to your spirit.

By allowing people to take advantage or commit acts of hurtfulness, you are doing a larger disservice to yourself. You can have a spouse that never cheated with someone else, but cheats on one’s spirit in other ways. They cheat through everyday acts of disloyalty.

  • Are they there for you?
  • Does your partner support you in what you want to do?
  • When you are ill, does your partner nurture you?
  • When raising your children, does your partner have a hand in that and show an interest?

It goes the same for your other relationships as well–your Mother, Father, Sister, Brother, Friend– to be in sync with your spirit and grow together.  So when you want to know about your partner cheating, think deeper.  It’s not a question of a single act, but many acts. It’s not 50/50; it’s always 100/100 percent. It’s important to be in total alignment with not just one’s self, but with each other.

So the question you should be asking yourself is, “Am I allowing people to cheat on my Spirit?”

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