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, , , Relationship Balance: Why We Need Equals in Our Lives

Relationship balance is something that too often we choose to ignore in our lives. There is an old saying my mother used to say, “Show me who your friends are and I’ll tell you what kind of person you are.”img_2820-bw

Well when she would tell me that, I didn’t quite understand what and how that meant, until I got older. I meet people that say, “I feel stuck and I don’t know why.” I say to them, “Look around. I bet it’s the people you surround yourself with that bring you down. The negative energy they bring to you.”

We need equals in our lives and need to achieve relationship balance because surrounding ourselves with people that we can learn from, or people that motivate us, or people that just bring out the best in ourselves is really key to having a happy and successful life. There are people that come in our lives for a reason, but the question is, “What do we learn from them?”

Achieving Relationship Balance 

When is it not okay to continue on with the relationship? How a person makes us feel or what they can make us do can be a huge disservice to ourselves. The fact is you should be choosey in who you allow in your space and around your daily life. People who are not happy will never make you happy.

When choosing your life partner, your partner should be your equal or above you. If you have to go ten steps backwards, stay single until you find the person that’s worthy of you.  Do not settle! When you separate yourself from negative relationships is when you grow; then you start to thrive. The more successful or higher you move throughout your life, the more protective you have to be with your space.

I always say, “If you have one good friend with the right qualities, then you are truly blessed.” Having twenty friends, but who are shallow, are not your friends. Understanding your growth level is key to your success in life but most of all your happiness. Looking back, I now have a deeper understanding of what my mother would say.

Equals in our lives really are key to a much more productive and happy life.
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Releasing negativity is essential for all of us if we are to move forward in our lives. Sometimes I come across a client who has had a very difficult time throughout their life. But the real question is what makes a person hold on to such enormous negativity? Sometimes it can be all the harboring of past lifetimes that he or she has experienced and has carried over to this lifetime. The many misunderstandings, the hurt, the betrayal and the strong sense of pain are what they are holding on to instead of making the real effort to change it. The negative person hurts himself or herself far more then they can hurt anyone else. When you finally let go, you are able to release negativity once and for all. When you are aware of the bad energy you can also put an end to it because what people don’t realize is that you hold all the power.

We need to be aware of how we use our energy. Releasing negativity can be accomplished by understanding the effects and harm it can do. When you understand it, then it virtually becomes powerless. For instance, when there is a problem in the home affecting one person, it’s not just that one person learning the lesson but each person living in the house is learning something as well. What we need to do more of is pay attention to the good people in our lives. Even if it is just one good person you are already ahead of the game. As the laws of attraction dictate, when you put out good thoughts you will get more good in return.

People know that they should do this but for some reason it is easier to harbor the bad experiences instead of releasing negativity and moving forward. If you focus more on the problem, you get more problems. When you focus on the solution, the end of the problem is in sight. You should try to learn from the past but keep the past where it belongs–in the past. Look towards the future and only then will you move forward. Allow yourself to be guided to a more balanced and aware state of mind. The key is to make sure the mind, body and soul connection is in alignment with one’s whole self.

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